It was about a month ago. We stopped at that most evil of empires to a healthy foodie… the motorway services. I was relieved to see the Waitrose sign, and husband headed straight to the fast food counter.
And that’s the moment it didn’t happen. The thing that had become my post-gluten ritual for eight years.
I didn’t lean in for a long, lustful lung full of beef pattie and relish. I didn’t look forlornly at the soft, seeded bun and sigh, recounting my age old lament that if only I had foreseen my future gluten exile, I would have had just one last Big Mac…
That day, given the choice, I would have picked my fresh, tasty salad and fruit over the fast food choice hands down.
Do you recognise that feeling?
It may have been the day you realised you had finally woken up that morning not thinking of your ex. Or the day you are chatting with friends about having a drumstick lolly every day on the way home from school, and yet you can’t remember when you stopped eating them.
It had taken me eight years of holding on to that last ritual of loss, to suddenly realise that I no longer felt deprived. The script of missing that fast food gluteniness that I had been re-running in my head was outdated, obsolete, no longer required.
I had re-programmed my self without even realising.
It doesn’t matter whether you have given up gluten due to coeliac or sensitivity, or dairy to reduce your sinusitis, or texting your ex after too many margaritas. Most of us go through that mourning period. It’s perfectly natural, and if you are mourning the loss of something it’s important to acknowledge those feelings as part of the process.
But it’s equally important to be mindful of your mind set.
Because one day it won’t feel so bad. And that day will arrive sooner if you approach it with an adding-in attitude rather than a taking-away one.
Got to give up gluten? Start your quest to find the best tasting organic, raw chocolate on the planet!
Can’t face life without cheddar? Vow to find the healthiest, tastiest flavour that tickles your savoury taste buds (they are not cheddar-exclusive)
Text-pesting your ex? Text yourself some love instead! Use a reminder app to send you affirmations at your ‘danger times’ (or quit the margaritas? Yeah I know, one step at a time ; )
When ‘adding in’ it’s important to choose something that you will enjoy. Even if it’s just a little bit. Even if it just makes you smile. Raw deprivation tastes so bitter, you’ll never keep it down.
So, what will you ‘add in’ to your life this week? What will your addition be replacing? Blueberries and walnuts instead of Skittles?
Have you checked in with yourself recently to see if your Script of Loss is running in the background?
Do you really need it on loop? Or are you just stuck in the habit of feeling deprived?
I would love to read your triumphs and challenges around this subject.
So, What’s Your Script?
Post a comment telling me what you want to take out of your life, and what you think would be fun to add-in instead.